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Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilized by education; they grow there, firm as weeds among rocks.
 
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Fawzia Gulsha

[Life in a stance.] Be the Change- Be yourself

 

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Date: Fri, 19 Jun 2009
Subject: [Life in a stance.] Be the Change- Be yourself

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To be a leader you have to lead yourself first. This is one of the trademarks of true Leaders. Every time you’re with someone who manages himself/herself perfectly under any circumstances you know you’re talking someone big. It’s hard to resist responding back to a bad intentioned comment, or rude words, and it’s even harder if you’re in a position to lead, where it’s easy to be prey of your ego.

It’s difficult to connect with your values and elaborate the most appropiate answer to respond in certain circumstances. But you have to do that in order to become a great leader. Read that again: to become a GREAT LEADER. I’m not talking about being a leader only, but a great one. The higher your expectations, the higher you’ll get.

I’ll share with you a couple of things you should manage in the best possible way in order to lead yourself.

Handle Your Emotions

Sometimes it’s Ok to show your emotions and express your feelings freely to let your team know who you are and how you feel. But there are times when not showing your emotions is the right thing to do. Specially when showing your emotions lowers your team morale or affects them badly.

The key is to think if showing your emotions will be good for your team or not. That means, you have to be “big enough” to consider your team before you consider yourself.

Manage Your Time

To become a great leader you need to manage your time. A day has only 24 hours, you can’t put anymore time in it. So, if you a have a really tight schedule, you should start considering to stop doing the less valuable things of your agenda, and passing that tasks to someone who can help you. The other way is simply stop doing the less important things in your life. Remember, a day has only 24 hours, you can’t strecht it. It’s fixed.

LEADERSHIP ACTIONS

1. Commit yourself to wait at least a couple of seconds before responding to anything, in that way you will have a chance to not answer the first thing that comes up to your mind. And you will show “self-control”. This is specially useful in complex situations. 2. Take a look at your agenda and try to delegate, better yet,eliminate activities that suck up your time, and energy.

Don’t forget: To be a leader you have to lead yourself first.And by the way, I think it’s easier to juggle.

Be Alert, Be A Leader.

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Being grateful for the life and opportunities you have in front of you is empowering. Always be aware that there are many people that are far less privileged than you, and think of ways that you might be able to help them. Having appreciation for your own life helps you develop compassion for others; and could give you a chance to make a meaningful contribution.

As you can see, there are many ways you can be the change in the world. Now go out there and lend a helping hand! It will make a positive difference in your life and someone else's!

Are you determined to make a difference to your life, your community, or help someone close to you? There are hundreds of ways to give back and make a significant impact in someone else’s life. You can make a meaningful impact simply by volunteering and taking part in community activities. When you set a high standard for yourself, there’s a good chance that others will follow suit. Here are some simple ways you can start making a difference today:

Mahatma Gandhi’s famous quote, ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’ has helped many people appreciate the world around them and their place in it. The quote’s deeper meanings can be applied to a variety of situations and provides some inspiration for those who feel that they want to contribute to their lives, their communities, and the future of humanity itself.

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[Life in a stance.] Live For The Moment

[Life in a stance.] Live For The Moment

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To live in the moment or now means to be conscious, aware and in the present with all of your senses. It means to not think about or dwell on the past, nor be anxious or worry about the future.

When we give our attention to the present, or now, we focus on the task at hand. We give our full attention to what we are doing and we let go of outcomes.

Seizing each moment in our lives allows us to prolong its value and make it more meaningful. Rather than seeking quantity of time, when we live in the moment we enjoy and savor every minute. We don't sacrifice quality for quantity.

Of course, it doesn't mean that we don't have plans, set goals or prepare for the future. We can do all of those things and still enjoy each moment as it unfolds.

For instance if we have set a goal to exercise each day, we would carry on with it while we enjoy the actual process or moment of exercising (or at least be in the moment of it).

When we train ourselves to live in each moment, we immerse ourselves in it and begin to discover the beauty of it. We learn to focus and manage our energy. Professional athletes understand and use this kind of focus very well. They know that accomplishment and success are a result of the skillful management and balancing of energy.

To make every moment count we must embrace it. Everything we do and every person we come in contact with deserves our full attention. Even when resting we should savor the moment. It gives us the opportunity to recharge, renew and gain clarity.

Quite often we put huge expectations on ourselves and our lives. We rush to do this, hurry up with that, without actually enjoying the process. What's the rush? Where do we think we're going?

If we don't stop and think about where we're at, we're probably missing the point. Instead, when we appreciate each moment and garner the lessons from it, we live consciously, purposefully and responsibly.

Likewise when we live in the past and don't let go of painful experiences, perceived wrongs or difficult times, we condemn ourselves to a present and future of the same. We must accept that we can't change the past. We can only come to terms with it, know that it's over, and move on.

Living in the moment means letting go of the past and trusting in the future. If we are positive and optimistic in the present, our future will be positive and promising too. We owe it to ourselves to make every moment count - now!

Tips for living in the moment

Train your mind to focus on the current activity.
Engage in, and feel what you are doing. Enjoy the process.
Learn relaxation techniques in order to be present in each moment.
Take notice of your surroundings - sights, sounds, smells, ambiance.
Listen attentively to the conversation of others, music, even silence.
Savor your food and drink. Taste each morsel.





Thank you

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Fawzia Gulsha

[Life in a stance.] Be your self

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The finest clothing made is a person's skin, but, of course, society demands something more than this.

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Life in a Stance is all about being yourself..
One of the most important leadership skills is motivating people.

In simple words they show how leaders must motivate from the top down in order to be effective.

I’ve picked up 10 simple ways to motivate others :

1. Know Where Motivation Comes From. First of all you should recognize this.
Motivation comes from within. The key here is that good managers get people to motivate themselves.
They manage agreements, not people.

2. Tune In Before You Turn On.
This simple advice works wonders!! In order for leaders to be heard, they must first listen. Shut your mouth.
Listen, and then speak. Listen, and then speak.

3. Give Feedback.
To reach great highs, people require constant feedback. Achievement needs feedback.
If you deprive people of feedback, you make them create their own. They start to figure
things out in the wrong way, and that certainly is not good.

4. Lead from the Front (or Walk the Talk).
Be the first to volunteer if you want volunteers, be the first to help customers if you want people to help customers.
Leaders can motivate being an example for their teams.

5. Tell the Truth Quickly.
Leaders don’t hold the truth, instead they’re faster in telling the truth. In that way they foster trust and confidence with their team.

6. Know Your Purpose.
Remember about vision. A good leader, knows why he’s doing what he does, and what to expect from his/her team. A good leader always helps his/her team
to keep focus on the vision.

7. Do the Worst First.

Show your team what the priorities are, and if the worst has to be done, do it first. After that, everything will seem easier.

8. Know Your People’s Strengths.
Enhancing a person’s positive attributes allows him to use more of his potential.

9. To Motivate Your People, First Just Relax.
If you’re nervous and tense, that may lead to poor performance and will affect other people as well. Strive to be calm
and confident.

10. Give Up Being Right.
Sometimes you have to show you know you won’t be right all the time. That’s one of the hallmarks of strong leaders.
LEADERSHIP ACTIONS

Take 1 out of the ten actions NOW and do it.
Repeat until you’ve done all ten in the above list.
Remember Be Alert, Be A Leader

Be The Leader

Be A Leader. 

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www.lifeinastance.com

Life in a Stance is all about being yourself..

One of the most important leadership skills is motivating people.

In simple words they show how leaders must motivate from the top down in order to be effective.

I’ve picked up 10 simple ways to motivate others :

1. Know Where Motivation Comes From. First of all you should recognize this.
Motivation comes from within. The key here is that good managers get people to motivate themselves.
They manage agreements, not people.

2. Tune In Before You Turn On.
This simple advice works wonders!! In order for leaders to be heard, they must first listen. Shut your mouth.
Listen, and then speak. Listen, and then speak.

3. Give Feedback.
To reach great highs, people require constant feedback. Achievement needs feedback.
If you deprive people of feedback, you make them create their own. They start to figure
things out in the wrong way, and that certainly is not good.

4. Lead from the Front (or Walk the Talk).
Be the first to volunteer if you want volunteers, be the first to help customers if you want people to help customers.
Leaders can motivate being an example for their teams.

5. Tell the Truth Quickly.
Leaders don’t hold the truth, instead they’re faster in telling the truth. In that way they foster trust and confidence with their team.

6. Know Your Purpose.
Remember about vision. A good leader, knows why he’s doing what he does, and what to expect from his/her team. A good leader always helps his/her team
to keep focus on the vision.

7. Do the Worst First. 

Show your team what the priorities are, and if the worst has to be done, do it first. After that, everything will seem easier.

8. Know Your People’s Strengths.
Enhancing a person’s positive attributes allows him to use more of his potential.

9. To Motivate Your People, First Just Relax.
If you’re nervous and tense, that may lead to poor performance and will affect other people as well. Strive to be calm
and confident.

10. Give Up Being Right.
Sometimes you have to show you know you won’t be right all the time. That’s one of the hallmarks of strong leaders.
LEADERSHIP ACTIONS

Take 1 out of the ten actions NOW and do it.
Repeat until you’ve done all ten in the above list.
Remember Be Alert, Be A Leader 

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Intimacy: Everybody wants it, not everyone can achieve It.

Everybody wants it, not everyone can achieve it. The desire to express and experience intimacy is a natural human trait, yet many relationships are starved of this at different times throughout the relationship. Some couples experience a lack of intimacy after a short time together. The sad reality is that many couples do not know how to reclaim this valuable aspect to their relationship.

Expressing and experiencing intimacy takes many shapes and forms, but the real challenge is finding a way to establish intimacy as a primary and ongoing characteristic of the relationship. When couples first come together intimacy is typically sensational and each person carries the expectation that it will last forever.

 

Few couples realize that great relationships come 'dressed-up in overalls and look like work'. Intimacy is something we learn as we go and people are likely to make mistakes in the process. The lessons of intimacy begin in our formative years, our first teachers were our parents.  If you were to inquire of others whether they desire the same relationship as that of their parents, few people would say yes. The rest is learnt from what we observe and experience from society.

 

Problems with intimacy arise when it is used as a form of equity transaction where a give and take mentality operates. This approach almost guarantees they will never reach a deep level of intimacy with each other. To be truly intimate with another, one must freely give of themselves at a deep level, it is a time of exposing your core self to join with another. This is a time where both people openly bare their heart and soul to the other, and a time of total acceptance by another for who you are right now.