Self- Esteem Or Complex

Self-esteem is a personality ingredient that one has to have and if possible in great amounts. That is not to say that a person need to be extremely sure of oneself to the point of arrogance; they just need enough amounts to be able to withstand the pressures of life and lead a contented existence.

This is because there is really no specific amount of self-esteem that one can be prescribed with. Different persons need different amounts of self-esteem the same way that different dynamics or aspects of one person’s life require different dosenesss of self-esteem. rather different situations also demand different amounts of self-esteem.

Whatever, there is no argument that one needs to prove self-esteem. It is basically developed during the growing up years in the way we are treated by our parents and the people around us. Parental treatment and social group interaction play major roles in the development of self-esteem. But that is not to say that self-esteem will be a permanent fixture . It can still be developed and enhanced, no matter what the age is.

There is a difference between self-love and narcissism. Although it is not recommended to become obsessed with one’s positive qualities, it is not wrong to once in a while acknowledge our achievements and talents. Self-affirmation is a great way to increase our self-esteem levels. Telling yourself that you are great in front of the mirror every morning may seem too much but it actually works in increasing one’s self-confidence.

Of course, you don’t have to take self-affirmation to the extreme as... Sometimes acknowledging the little achievements that you have done at the end of the day is enough to raise the rate of self-esteem.

Doing the things that you love .. would make you love yourself more than doing the things that someone else love.s ...When you love what you are doing, you become happier and more enthusiastic. You will also become more interested in developing your skills, by improving yourself and allowing you to trust yourself more. Besides, if you are happy with what you are doing, you are more confident with your decisions and your actions.

Then comes voicing out your own opinions and speaking your mind. Although there are some people who would try to put you down and argue with what you believe in; there are still people who will respect you for your thoughts. Acknowledging your thoughts and becoming comfortable with your thoughts will allow you to slowly trust yourself..

There is no perfect person in the world. Often, people develop low self esteem ( This again in reference to (my mail this morning ) because they try so much to become perfect; ( as each one is superior in their own way.Appreciation & Acceptance is also superior of oneself) but one thing that they have to learn is that they cannot become perfect as there is no perfect person.

All they can be is the best that they can be.And that by being yourself

Have a Wonderful Beginning of the Week ..

IN ITALIAN -

La stima di sé è un ingrediente di personalità che uno deve avere e se possibile nelle quantità elevate. Quello non è di dire che una necessità della persona di essere estremamente sicuro di se stesso al punto di arroganza; hanno bisogno appena di abbastanza importi di potere sostenere le pressioni di vita e condurre. contented

di esistenza Ciò è perché non ci è realmente quantità specifica di stima di sé che una può essere prescritta con. Le persone differenti hanno bisogno degli importi differenti di stima di sé lo stesso senso che la dinamica o lle funzioni differente di una vita della persona richiede i dosenesss differenti di stima di sé. le situazioni piuttosto differenti inoltre richiedono gli importi differenti del.

di stima di sé Qualunque, là è discussione di che una ha bisogno per dimostrare la stima di sé. È sviluppata basicamente durante la coltura in su degli anni nel senso che siamo curati dai nostri genitori e dalla gente intorno noi. L'interazione del gruppo sociale e di trattamento parentale svolge i ruoli importanti nello sviluppo di stima di sé. Ma quello non è di dire che la stima di sé sarà un dispositivo permanente. Può ancora essere sviluppato ed aumentato, qualunque cosa l'età sia ...... Ci è una differenza fra self-love e narcisismo. Anche se non è suggerito per essere ossessionato con le sue qualità positive, non è male di riconoscere occasionalmente i nostri successi e talenti. Il Self-affirmation è un grande senso aumentare i nostri livelli di stima di sé. Dirsi che siete grande davanti allo specchio che ogni mattina può sembrare troppa ma realmente funziona nell'aumento della sua sicurezza di sè.!!
aturalmente, non dovete prendere il self-affirmation all'estremo come… A volte riconoscere i piccoli successi che avete fatto alla conclusione del giorno è abbastanza per sollevare il tasso di stima di sé. -:) 

Facendo le cose che amate. gli renderebbe l'amore voi stessi più del facendo le cose che qualcun'altro love.s… quando amore che cosa state facendo, voi diventate più felice e più entusiastico. Inoltre diventerete più interessato nello sviluppare le vostre abilità, migliorandoti e permettendo che vi fidiate di di più.!! Inoltre, se siete soddisfatto di che cosa state facendo, siete più sicuro con le vostre decisioni e vostro.
di azioni Allora viene esprimendo fuori i vostri propri pareri e parlando la vostra mente. Anche se ci è qualche gente che proverebbe a metterla giù ed a discutere con che cosa credete dentro; ci è ancora la gente che lo rispetterà per i vostri pensieri. Il riconoscimento dei vostri pensieri e diventare comodi con i vostri pensieri permetteranno che vi fidiate lentamente di. 
Non ci è persona perfetta nel mondo. Spesso, la gente sviluppa la stima di sé bassa (questa ancora nel riferimento (la mia posta questa mattina) perché provano così tanto a diventare perfette; (come ciascuno è superiore nel loro proprio senso. & di apprezzamento; L'accettazione è inoltre superiore di se stesso) ma una cosa che devono imparare è che non possono diventare per quanto non ci sia perfetto. perfetto

della persona Tutto che possano essere è il meglio che possono essere.

E quello essendo voi stessi Abbia un inizio meraviglioso della settimana

Jealousy

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I never knew until that moment how bad it could hurt to lose something you never really had. Current mood: betrayed

If we must part forever,

Give me but one kind word to think upon,
And please myself with, while my heart's breaking.

Walking, working, barely breathing
My thoughts, far away
Heart aching, mind racing
Sleep does not come easily, nor last long....

I wept your absence - over and over again
Thinking of you , still you, till thought grew pain,
And memory, like a drop that, night and day,
Falls cold and ceaseless, wore my heart away!

My love-lies-bleeding. I don't know why they call it heartbreak.

It feels like every other part of my body is broken too.http://www.lifeinastance.com

Life in a stance

A LETTER FROM MY DAUGHTER- posted by sanjay jain

Here is the letter……….

Dear Father, please do read this with a silent mind.Please ok.Dont get angry.
Please read: How do alcohol affect living beings?

1.It affects the central brain and nervous system and causes its depression.
2.It slows down the metabolic process.
3.It causes lack of co-ordination, mental confusion,drowsiness and lack of stability.
4.The person might feel relaxed but loses judgement.
5.Sense of timing is lost and lack of muscular co-ordination.
6.Causes impact on eye sight.
7.Most of all the most hazardous of all effects is that to prevent the misuse of methyl alcohol in factories by the factory labourers. It is sometimes mixed with dyes and this alcohol known as denatured alcohol.If people consume this, alcohol oxidises to methanal (very hazardous) in the liver which reacts with the cell components and make the surroundings solid and the cells are unable to function.This leads to death.If the effect is less it leads to problems in the optic nerve causing complete blindness.
I know ,you care for our health as you have given us that information regarding Kurkure's pack ,mobile phones ,cold drinks,mentos etc.Similarly,you are our air, which we breathe ,but nobody notices it,so we care for your life and health and I never can tolerate you to go thru all these pains after slipping and falling from the terrace and then those Pathari(stone) dard (pain).So your health is a life jacket to us.If you also really love and care me then abandon this habbit of yours.You will be the best father in the world.I would do everything you say.Just think positively that this habit gives you and us no benefit.Don't think that I am trying to be older than you and is making you understand.No papa, please I just don't like these habits.I don’t want you to have any bad thing that makes you less than the BEST FATHER.So keep my words and please give me this as my BIGGEST B'DAY GIFT:--YOUR LIFE. O.K.Hope you will not mind. This is a secret letter and remind you that the info about the alcohol and other things are included in my chemistry curriculum.
Be like always you were earlier. A happy and a good humour father.

It is with me since she kept it under my wallet and now I am posting this on my blog .But I want to make this clear to everybody who will read this that I am not a alcoholic so that one does not get that impression . I drink once in a month or two and that too socially and not daily. I got the courage to post this when seeing Sach ka saamna on tv where people are telling their most secret truths then I can do this atleast FOR MY DAUGHTER.

_Sanjay Jain

Life in a stance

Natural generosity is limited by circumstances and relations within our own circle and, outside of these, is often vindictive. Love ignores all limits, by forgiveness.The love of which we speak is not natural, but supernatural. By faith and good works under God's grace, nourished by our Sacraments, - but this love we have toward Him must redound to all His creatures.

By moving from a little metaphor to a big one, The supernatural Power implies that precision in forgiveness is impossible. Leave it to love, and it is not likely to err on the lower side. The true inspiration for fellowship is not law but love. Law is negative:' Love is positive:

When the economy of the West collapses and we find ourselves amidst the ruins of a once-great society (which is in any case), we will all be forced to face a reality which so many of us have chosen to ignore. And it is just this: that our only hope is in supernatural love. At the moment, there are still many across the length and breadth of this nation who are yet to explore or understand what true Love means. The Supernatural Love is condemned and abused by the so called "profounders of true love"..

Through painful life lessons, abusive relationships and everyday obstacles, we discovers our true power. The power to transform, transcend and create our own perfect life; a power i believe is innate in us all. we are all the creators of our own destiny as we can learn to love and accept ourselves deeply, and that we can leave the destructive patterns of the past behind, forever.

we can bridge the gap between spirituality and everyday life, unleash the great healing power that lies buried deep within us so that we too can alter our path, conquer our fears and free our spirit, allowing us to embrace the joys and the serenity of the endless possibilities that lie ahead.

To travel from Childhood to the spiritual journey of humankind. is the path that takes us into true consciousness.Consciousness is not about Religion, but rather a natural spiritual evolvement of human consciousness, the awakening of a sense of unity with life, in its many forms, and oneness between the human and the divine.( This can be understood by the good spirits as the evil can always laugh at the Divine )

True consciousness is the acknowledgement that life is love. Not the egocentric love born of our human nature, but the all-loving, all-knowing and all-powerful love of our divine nature. Once we reach this understanding and exemplify it in our daily life, we live in Spiritual consciousness. You may choose to call it by a different name as for example the name of a Religion..

To master our fears, we need faith, not only faith in God but also faith in ourselves. Faith is a driving force, it is the power that takes us on the path of truth and keeps us on it. As we walk the road toward enlightenment our faith is constantly tested, because what appears to be true of ourselves and of others, strongly differs from what we know is the true reality of humanity. At times, the contrast between the two is so striking that our faith is shaken to its core.

No matter how dark it gets, the true reality of darkness is light, and our determination to bring light forth must not flounder.

Even if I knew deep within my soul that life was meant to be lived in joy, peace and harmony, it certainly appeared to be lived mostly in discord, selfishness and distress. I could not accept this imperfect world as the true reality of life, but had no concrete proof that my vision of a different world and a better life was correct. In fact, my faith in perfection seemed pretty naïve. But my apparently naïve faith also made me indestructible for, no matter what came my way, I kept my faith alive, thou I was a success in all that I have achieved in my career... I always trusted that my questions would be answered, that I would know happiness was there, that I would achieve perfection and find peace.
To better myself became a priority, an integral part of my day-to-day activities.

My Spiritual journey is not taken for achieving my goals, as I have achieved the materialistic wants beyond measures. My career and my day to day living is not my path to spiritualism.

The reason, I found out that seemingly insignificant exchanges that took place during the course of my journey could hold important clues about my behavior patterns. I scrutinized everything I did, every word I said, and I did not let myself get away with any improper behavior. For instance, if a problem arose in a friendship, I placed the focus on my own behavior rather than blaming the other person. I thought about the problem until its cause became clear to me, and then I tried to change my behavior or if i knew that i was not the cause , I chose to find new ways to keep the friendship healthy yet at a distance.

I did not let go of any situation until I felt that I had done everything I could to understand and improve it. My mind was sharp and active and I was always extremely observant and analytical. And my friends, colleagues or simple acquaintances often come to me for advice, which I dispensed willingly. People were drawn to confide in me because they trusted my confidence, they knew I listened and they recognized that I gave sound advices. I responded to them because I realized that I had an acute sensitivity that allowed me to see people clearly. I was able to do this, not only because it is easier to see clearly in a situation when one stands outside of it, but also because I could connect with the energy of everyone involved in the matter, and sense the truth behind their actions or reactions. With time, I knew that most people repeatedly lied to themselves and consequently to others, and lived in emotional and mental jails. Jails with walls that they were building wider every day, until they were left with so little room to breathe, that either they found a way to escape or died emotionally, spiritually and even physically. However, I did not realize that it was through my own sensitivity that I received certain insights that presented me with the solution for the dilemmas of others. I sincerely thought that what was obvious to me was obvious to everyone. Perhaps most importantly, I did not know how to discern when it was appropriate to speak the truth as I saw it, and when it was necessary to keep quiet. Consequently, I often ended up alienating myself from the very people I meant to help.

For the most part, people were neither ready nor willing to hear what I said to them, and they ended up resenting me for bringing certain issues to their attention. Because they would not accept certain truths about themselves, they kept on creating similar hurtful situations. The friends that kept going back to their abusive boyfriend, because of the fear to be alone or because abusive love was the only love she recognized, did not want to stop the circle of abuse. She did not accept that she had the power to change the circumstances of her life because she had grown comfortable feeling sorry for herself …

Looking back, I realize that I was led mostly through the power of my mind while the qualities of my heart, such as temperance and compassion, were not very developed in me then. I was also fighting my own issues and it did take me many years before I would be able to know and accept my own truths, and my expressing compassion toward others was something I was born with... I had a lot of work to do on myself.

One of the reasons we experience so much disappointment is that our perception of success is false. We are fast to grade people's successes or failures according to external displays of riches or physical beauty. Many believe that happiness depends on possessing these attributes and our society admires rich, successful and handsome people, without having any clue as to their true character. God is bombarded with requests for money, lovers, slim bodies and other self-gratifying desires, and I too asked for all of the above thinking them to be keys to happiness.Here Let me Clarify that, I am not suggesting that it is wrong to have such desires or that addressing one's spirituality entails a life of poverty, loneliness and homeliness; not at all. Prosperity, love and beauty are divine qualities that we are intended to create for ourselves. However, I feel that it is best that they not be an objective, but rather a result of our efforts to know and better ourselves. The more connected we are to the divine, the more our desires will come true for us.

In addition, because of the many changes, the seeker of truth ,undergoes a lot along the way, the beginning of the journey may not be favorable to personal relationships. Friendships and marriage may be dissolved and new relationships difficult to maintain. During our quest for truth, we are confronted by our fears and conquering them may require our undivided attention for a while, leaving very little room for the needs of others, even for those we dearly love. This does not mean that we can ignore our responsibilities, but rather that we must prioritize and let go of the "nonnecessities" that clutter our lives and rob us of our energy and time. Furthermore, as we progress and start overcoming some of our fears, certain qualities that were within us reawaken, and we slowly grow into a different personality. Those who witness the changes we undergo are subliminally reminded of the personal journey they themselves need to take in order to fight their own fears.

Consequently, they may feel threatened by our success and find it difficult adjusting to our "new" self. They may not be able to acknowledge that we have changed or they may even reject who we have become. Every change and revelation produces new initiations not only for us but also for all those who are a part of our life. At the beginning, I imagined my spiritual awakening not so much as a path but as a ladder, which gave me the opportunity to ascend from the abyss of Human imperfection into the heights of divine perfection..Our consciousness being full of untruths, fearful emotions and prejudices, we are so removed from the spiritual realities of life that externalizing spiritual truths in ourselves and in the manner we interrelate with others takes a long time,

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Compromise- Is it buying peace or ????

We see many adjust to difficult circumstances for fear of society or family. This time we see that we have to thank God for the life he has given us.. the good friends around us, our family who cares for us.. we maynot have everything but we do have most of it..and yet we complaint...

Its true that none of us have a perfect life but again most part of it is within us as we tend to make it more complicated but accepting life, which we are not happy of, yet live for fear of social stigma. We never realise, for the fear of society, we adjust and live with certain terms and conditions..making situations more and more compromising and little do we see that we are spinning our own web wherein the chances of getting entangled or caught up in our own web, if not today ..tomorrow..

As life is to compromise..but again compromise in a positive manner rather adding negatives by living a dual life which is even more stressful and harmful for ourselves and for the ones we love.. The hard part is accepting that we are wrong..as each have a justification for their deeds.

We do not know the rights and wrongs in the eyes of God..but our conscious knows the truth deep within us and we do not wish to listen to our inner self..

A life of compromise is living various life to please the others around us and this means we are not potraying our true selves. Do you think leading a life of 3 or 4 people in one soul is peaceful or right ?? I think its better to go thru the pain of being yourself thou it will hurt many around us rather than make it more sinful.. as the day one is caught ..the result is more horrifying than one expects.

We think that the method to be peaceful is various..but little do we know that this is a method of self destruction and a journey which can never give the serenity one is looking for.

The moral of the story is it takes a lot of courage to be fearless.. it hurts us too.. but its momentary and then its a Divine journey of peace and truthful events... But a Life of trying to compromise and keep each one in various compartment..is a journey full of untruthful events which can perish our individuality forever.. The life of truth is painful but makes us pure from within...and frees us forever of our negatives... Its a situation which is called living with eyes and mind closed..

 
...Have a wonderful Sunday and a peaceful week ahead...

 

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 The whole idea of starting this network is not just for my benifit or for me to pass my time .. This and all network is started with some ideas which can also help many. As a part of my causes too. I have in the past helped many for employment also. Thinking Space has both successful and the ones who need to still explore and find opportunity. I try my best whenever I am needed by the beginners to be guided. Similarly I request every member successful in their field to give opportunities to the ones who approach you as that is community service. Charity is not all about money. You can help many find their destination by guiding them or giving each one a opportunity by opening the doors of success in your own way. This will also help you build yourself too. Again, if you feel you are already successful, and not looking to grow, yet you can let others grow thru you. I have done this all my life selflessly and in return have benifitted in my business, may not be with the same but elsewhere. You give and in return you will recieve from the Almighty as you are showing the way to many to make a survival. I hope that each and every member contributes towards this cause of Humanity along with me as its a team work .. without your support i can never do this.
 Kindly Co- Operate and trust me this will bring you immense joy and self satisfaction.

  Best wishes to all on this new journey of the new Divine race of Humanity

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